Living with a narcissist is difficult, and so is divorcing them. If you are parting ways with a narcissist, there is a pretty good chance they will not fade quietly out of your life. After all, these individuals are self-centered and controlling to the extreme.
If your spouse is a narcissist, divorcing them will be just as taxing as your marriage has been. Fortunately, it is not impossible.
Here are three simple strategies that can help you divorce a narcissist successfully:
Plan your actions ahead
A narcissist will, more often than not, want to have their way in everything, and that includes the terms of your divorce. And with so much to deal with (such as finances, custody, child and spousal support), it helps to start off by prepping yourself for what lies ahead. Be sure to put your legal team together, get your financial documents together and take other important steps before getting started with the divorce process.
A narcissist will often seize every opportunity to fight and/or misrepresent facts in their favor. You need to be prepared. Keep a record of any documentation that relates to the marriage. Be sure to keep copies of any conversations, emails and texts that may seem manipulative. If your spouse is verbally, emotionally or physically abusive, be sure to document as much as you can and keep records.
Keep your cool
A narcissist will certainly do everything in their power to get in your head during the divorce. Do yourself a favor by demanding that any communication or negation regarding the divorce be conducted in the presence of your legal counsel or go through their office.
Find out how you can safeguard your rights and interests while divorcing a narcissist.